Why people are afraid of loving

 
  • Reason people seek collateral in love (“if you will love me, I will love you”)
    • Inferiority complex: I have no outstanding traits, I cannot embark on love without collateral
    • People use feeling of inferiority as excuse to avoid one’s task
    • When people lose courage to embark on a relationship, they cling to fantasy if a destined one (Elimination of all candidates)
  • marriage is not a choice of target but a choice of one’s way of living
    • Target can be anyone
    • Love is a decision
    • How the meeting happens doesn’t matter, the decision to build love (confront the task by two people) matters
  • courage to love is the courage to be happy
    • Love is the method for gaining the feeling of contribution
    • When living with “us” being the subject, one gains the real feeling of community
    • Us includes entire human race
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  • The world is simple, and life is too. But keeping it simple is difficult, and it is there that the passage of ‘nothing days’ becomes one’s trial.