Tendencies for childhood lifestyle

  • first born or only child: experience of monopolizing parents love
    • If a sibling is born: forced away from monopoly:
      • if setback is not well coped ⇒ “worshipper of the past” lifestyle (conservative)
      • If already learned cooperation and assistance ⇒ likely good leader (joy in taking care)
    • Only child: parent becomes the rival
      • Mother complex: want all of mother’s love, see father as rival
      • Anxiety: can’t afford to have another child, pessimistic atmosphere
      • Limitless love transforms to control
  • Later-born children: placed in competition relationships
    • feeling of “I want to catchup”. Aim for revolution
  • generally, we live controlled by our parents’ love
    • Lifestyle of being loved
    • The only way to get out is love oneself
 
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